It has been said, in celebration of the strength of womanhood that “Ginger Rogers did everything Fred Astaire did, but backwards and in high heels.”
I’d like to say that there was one thing that Ms. Rogers never did and that was lead. Leading, going forward on level footing, was Mr. Astaire’s responsibility. Mr. Astaire was responsible for knowing the dance and for guiding Ms. Rogers along. Ms. Roger’s responsibility was to trust and follow Mr. Astaire.
What if they were both trying to lead? What if Ms. Rogers followed, but only after a lengthy argument some very passionate fellowship about how she knew best? What would the dance have looked like? Who would have wanted to watch? Who would have wanted to dance just like the them?
Sometimes the hardest thing for us, women, to learn is not how to walk backwards in heals. It is learning how to fully trust the one that is leading.
Tags: dancing, Fred Astaire, Ginger Rogers, leadership, Marriage, submission
