This weekend I had a similar conversation with both my sister and my sister-in-law. I was sharing some of the events that had taken place in my life recently. What I found interesting was that I received basically the same response from both of them. They both responded with the standard ‘you’re a better person then I am…’ reply. That’s a hard one, because what do you say to that? ‘Why, yes I am. Thank you for noticing.’ Somehow, that doesn’t seem all that appropriate.
Last night I was driving home from my sisters and that conversation was replaying in my head. What should I have said? Was there anything to be said? I thought about my sister’s marriage and some of the issues I have witnessed from the outside looking in, things I don’t think I would have handled the same or as well as she did. I thought about my sister-in-laws marriage, and again, I realized that there were events and occurrences in her marriage and home life that upon seeing and even hearing about, I couldn’t have stood for them, wouldn’t have stood for…and yet she did, with grace and strength and quiet dignity.
My battles are different then my sister’s or my sister-in-laws or yours for that matter. And if I looked in or was told about them, I might find myself thinking, or even saying, ‘there is no way I could do that, you’re a better person then I am.’, but that’s not true. It’s not that you’re better or that I’m worse, it’s just that we are equipped to fight on different battlefields.
We all have our own giants to throw stones at.
And that my friend, is the answer I was looking for.
I Am by Ginny Owens
Tags: Marriage, Relationships
